I agree it forces you to see the worst in yourself because you see it in the other ENFP. But being the optimistic person that i am it may help you to grow and change what you dislike about yourself, but im with you i would never date another ENFP..... who would clean the house?

i would never date another ENFP. that would get on my nerves. hahahaha

Well, I am not married to an ENFP. I am married to and ESFP..... even worse. Right? Not really. We have had our ups and downs. Yes, the house is a mess and it bothers me that I dont have someone cleaning up after me. At 36, I am finally starting to be OK, with that. Mostly. The way I see it is this. There is feeling and emotion, and then there is reality. You all might be able to learn something from me. My wife and I met in a band, she was the singer. See pictures here: www.flickr.com/photos/10710470@N08
(sorry in advance for any PETA members)

We had problems in the beginning, big problems. Mostly cuz of me to be honest. We had our first child out of wedlock. One day, my Grandfather said something that start a gradual change in the way I view what love is. This is not natural for an ENFP mind you as we supposedly in love with the initial phases of relationships, which is true. However, it does not have to be the final sentance for an ENFP as I found out. I remember it so clearly, we were outside in front of the barn. I had been staying in a little camp trailer up at Gramma and Grampas. I had found out Judi was pregnant. I was still in another relationship (sort of) with freind of the family I had know since we were kids. Was VERY much "In Love" with this other person and could have seen myself marrying her. I said, "I dont love her". He said, "You loved her enough to get her pregnant." I dont want you to think I am this total bastard ok, there was some flat out deception on her part about taking birth control (NOT), but I am Ok with that now. Of course, we didnt get married right after that conversation. During that 3 years I got back together with a highschool girlfriend, who happened to in the college class with Judi at that time. (Boy was that interesting) Eventually we moved back in together and then she was pregnant with Jennifer. Ok, it was time to you know what or get off the pot. So I asked her to marry me and she did. Over time I came to realize that yes, the emotions I feel are intense but not sustainable. As an ENFP I had to teach myself what true lasting purposeful love is. It also helped to read a book called the 5 love languages. I learned that the other person may not see something we assume is an act of love in the way we hope. Honestly, that has been a struggle with me regarding Judi, as helping out around the house speaks louder to her than leaving a love note with hearts all over it. Being an ENFP I am sure you could see where that could be a potential problem area. I would rather hire someone. Heck I would rather go hungry for a week so I CAN hire someone than clean it myself. But you know what? Judi knows that about me and so when I have forced myself to do these that go against my nature because I want to speak "her" love langauge, it has very positive affects. So, it can work but would definetly avoid dating an ENFP who is younger than late 20's to early 30's if you are wanting to get married right away and/or hoping to get the same level of committment. Not in every case of course, but in general. Your call. It can work though if you find and ENFP with the right motivation. By that, I do not mean getting pregnant on purpose. Although, in hindsite, dishonest or not, Judi getting pregnant was probably one of the best things that could have happened to to force me to mature and grow up. Mostly.

I have a close ENFP girlfriend and a close ENFP aunt who I love, but I didn't like dating my one ENFP boyfriend. I can't put my finger on exactly why. I also have a guy who is in my circle of friends who is an ENFP. I just find him sort of boring and annoying. I don't know what this means, if anything! Maybe it's just too much of one thing.

(I wouldn't want to date myself either, although I am very loyal and loving in a relationship. I think I would find *myself* annoying.)

i can't imagine anything worse... :)

part of my enfp-ness is needing the positive feedback... i know i "shouldn't", but i kinda need an audience.

i just cannot imagine how 2 of us could co-exist :)

Okay, I've come across information that states that it's not necessarily a bad idea to date other ENFP's....

See.... www.socionics.com/rel/idn.htm

I'm still wary though... :P

LOL... I drive myself crazy in the dating world, but I just can't seem to stop. I pretty much give everyone a chance, and then discover that they don't share my values, aren't affectionate enough or I just get BORED. I get sick of being the creative one all the time and then they don't share the creative streak and just suggest sitting at home and watching another movie when it is their turn to pick again. I seem to attract people like no tomorrow, but only keep them for a couple of months until I find someone else who is intriguing. I think I've dated 12 people in the last two years.

The last ENFP I dated was a lot of fun, but I could never tell if he was into me or not because he kept flirting with other girls. I just kept getting jealous so finally kicked him to the curb. But I have his same tendencies anyway.

What do you people do to stop the madness.? I am in my mid-twenties and I am terrified this will last forever.

My BFF said she wouldn't date me if I was a guy.
That's how bad ENFP's are.
haha...