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Listening to music

David — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 00:10:38 GMT

being an ENFP i like most types of music and i love to find and hear new music. While listening to music i have the capability to "feel" the music, is this a ENFP thing or do you think this is true for everyone else? Also what kinds of music do you like to listen tot the most? any suggestions? ha

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male enfp-- inner peace

Jon — Mon, 25 May 2009 06:16:36 GMT

i was wondering if any other young ENFP males find themselves depressed alot. Until very recently, i was fighting my type without even knowing it. I was trying to do all the classical "male" things, and i just ended up fighting with myself in my head. Crazy neurotic. My MBTI results were always what i "wanted" to be at the moment, and when ENFP came up, i kept trying to fight it. Now, ive gotten to understand my type better, and have learned to accept myself more. I am still far from reaching inner peace(still depressed more than the average vicissitudes should allow IMO) but i think that finally being honest with myself about my personality has gotten me started down the right path. Please post if you have any ideas for how male ENFPs can come to peace with themselves, or if you have any other comment.

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What are your randomly awesome skills? Obscure jobs you've had? Awesome talents?

Paula — Thu, 21 May 2009 23:00:02 GMT

Being an ENFP means being good at everything we touch. Why, this last weekend I played horseshoes with my family for the first time since I was a child, and naturally I lead everyone in points by the second game when I'd found my stride.

Because we intrinsically look for the finer mechanical details to everything we do, we have a leg up on everyone around us. It's a handy skill, as we are all aware. Couple that with our lust for dipping our toes into every new stream that we come across, and you end up with a laundry list chock full of random talents.

Being that you are basically me, you already know why I want to know.. I'm bored! lol. I need a new distraction, and I'm coming to you, my virtual brethren, for assistance in the removal of my boredoom.

I'll start! I've mastered the flute and the piano, am currently learning guitar and violin, with plans to pick up my mother's sax and my father's trumpet. I plan to some day raise sheep, sheer them, spin their yarn, dye it, and sell it. Yay farms! I program in HTML, JAVA, and 2 minor languages. I SCUBA dive. I can manipulate a photo like nobody's business. etc. etc.

Those are just a few, of course, but I fear I might go for at least a dozen more paragraphs if I don't stop myself now lol. Happy listing!

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What is ENFP's best love match??

brett — Tue, 24 May 2005 02:58:22 GMT

the idealist's best type match is the rational bc they both have abstract thoughts and can relate to each other on those levels. but i was wonderin if anyone knew anything more specific? like what is technically the best match for an ENFP girl?? maybe an INTJ or INTP? thoughts and explainations please~~

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Committmentphobia

TinkerBell — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 12:53:35 GMT

I'm a likable expressive, emotional, and very sweet ENFP.....

But they say I'm wishy washy :(

I'm very flexible and see things in gray. I see different sides to things and
can understand others' viewpoints. My feelings about things change according
to needs of the current situation and/or how the current situation
affect the perceived future and my place in it. It causes me to be
noncommittal and evasive. My mind will change and and then I appear
somewhat confused at times even though I'm typically a "smart cookie".
Then I start changing things and making different decisions....

This makes it kinda hard getting places in the long-term.......
I can understand why it would make me appear unreliable
and possibly selfish with a dismissal of my intelligence and
hard working-ness...

(Darn decisions and then having to stick to them! :P )

Some people see this as a need to "corral" me maybe due to
my flightiness.... But, as you know, this makes me fly even farther.

This not only goes for work, but also my personal life. [Oh.. those poor, poor boyfriends :( ]
It can get stressful for me and those close to me.

Committmentphobia????

What I would like from my fellow ENFP'ers is a little assistance in that area on how you've overcome your
commitment issues or just plain-o things like mantra's to get thru times of commitment/loyalty crisis.

Any tips anyone?

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ENFP best book ever.

Alex — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 12:09:38 GMT

Hey people, love this thread and so stoked to know there are so many of you gifted, bright individuals out there who share that perpetual "what-will-I-do-with-all-my-talents-if-I-could-only-concentrate-for-a-minute" dilemma! I'm supposing since you ARE such an articulate and bright bunch, that you've read some great books over the years. So what is your favourite book of all time? Something perhaps that you found inspirational and amazing, that blew your hair back and was magical and wondrous but yet felt you could identifiy with in that dreamy ENFP way.

Hands down mine's "Shantaram".

Alex ;)

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Most annoying thing about an ENFP

Mimi Maya — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 00:32:29 GMT

Hey guys here is an awesome article of the most annoying things about an enfp...

http://personalitycafe.com/enfp-forum-inspirers/1045-most-annoying-thing-about-enfp.html

What do you guys think?

There are more great information located here...
http://personalitycafe.com/enfp-forum-inspirers/

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Male ENFPs

Raezen — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 16:37:44 GMT

Hey guys!
I know 4 ENFPs besides myself and 3 of them are coworkers & 1 of them has been my good friend for approx 10 years. Anyways, the 2 male ENFPs have very similar "issues" to each other, and these issues are quite different than my female friends "issues". I feel that it must be so hard to be a male ENFP, and that being an ENFP "messes them up MORE" because it is considered to be a very feminine psyche. I've read & noticed that the male ENFPs will overcompensate for this rightbrained-ness in several ways, (such as being super defensive / argumentative in conversations, or projecting the image of being overly masculine.) what do you guys think? Any thoughts / comments?

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ENFP CAREER CHOICES?? DECISIONS! DECISIONS!!

Tommyboy — Wed, 15 Mar 2006 02:14:53 GMT

Hello Fellow ENFP's!!

I am new to tribe.net & I was just wondering what does everybody do for job / career & do they have any satisfaction?? Im trying to find the perfect job for me & making career changes is difficult and stressful & I don't want to have to do it too often.

I just recently turned 28 and am starting to experience burnout at my day job. I currently have a desk job for a high-tech company. It was interesting at first but lately I've been getting depressed and feel like it’s sucking the life out of me. When I first was looking at college I was looking at paramedics and other helping professions but went with high tech because at the time it was booming and everybody said "thats where the money is". Right now I only go for the paycheck and even that is hard. I've walked out on jobs for putting up with less. I feel like my job doesn't matter & I should be out helping people, making a difference & that there is more to life than getting a paycheck. I took the myers briggs and I agree with being ENFP although I've never been that creative, not artsy anyways. I did always enjoy drama in school and like being the center of attention. I've always been good at brain storming & coming up with ideas & public speaking. I also love the outdoors. I recently starting playing the violin about 5 months ago & seem to be getting pretty good at it. I actually played in public at a local pub about a week ago and did pretty well.

Previous jobs that I've had that I've enjoyed have been bartending and cashier. I've always been a social people person (hence the bartending) and I realize that is one of the things that is lacking. I've been looking at other careers but I can't narrow it down. I have the WORST time making decisions and as a result I do nothing and sometimes opportunities pass me by. I want to go back to college and have an opportunity to do so now but not sure what to take.

Does anybody else feel this way??

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ENFP best matches

Alex — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 11:03:45 GMT

Hello wonderful like-minded people! I am wondering what personality make the best partners for ENFPs? I recently ended a relationship with an ENTJ. It was mind-blowingly passionate but often there were many arguments and she had a real problem defining feeling or even talking about it. I often felt like there was a real lack of understanding and patience so it's a good thing it's over!!
I think someone more in touch with their feelings but also fun, creative and like-minded would be ideal, do ENFP-ENFP relationships work?? I know ENFPs are grrrrrreat lovers ( maybe it's just me??!!!). I understand this categorisation/temprament sorter thing only shows some common tempraments and a person's uniqueness extends beyond these things...aaaanyways..please discuss!

:)

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Best Careers for ENFP, and college majors, some ideas...

Christine — Thu, 26 Apr 2007 22:41:01 GMT

College Majors we gravitate towards: (my made up list)

English/Journalism
Communications/Marketing
Sociology
Psychology
Education
Women's Studies

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Most inticing professions for ENFP's

Entertainment Industry---
* television show producer/writer
*assistant producer
* movie producer/writer
* investigative journalist
* magazine writer

Advertising--
*Marketing creative team member
*magazine writer

Education/Counseling---
*Inspriational Speaker, group lecturer, team trainer
*Life Coach
*Private Consultant
*Guidance Counselor/Libral arts college/ private High Schools
*Coupples Counselor, Counselor of Groups and dealing with relationships, identity
*teacher, English, creative writing, film, psychology, sociology etc.
*Career Counselor
*Human Resources recruiter

Health Care---
Personal Trainer
Nutirionist, nutirional counselor, speaker, book writer
Holistic helath care practioner
Patient advocate (hospital)

I think it would be coolest to work in the entertainment industry, but also the least practical, and long hours too, and not much room for autonomy and job sucurity, or pay.

Second best would to be an Independent Consultant, then Marketing creative idea person, then a teacher at a university, and then a counselor.

I think counseling is harder, cause we ENFPs want to be like counselors but we tend to interrupt, and want to be the center of attention and brillant and bright and shiny, and noticed and not the best listeners in the world, but better talkers than listeners, so counseling we have to restrain ourselves, but learning how to listen is a good skill.

what do you all thing about this list... anything to add...
Do you think its better to go for whats realistic, or to try and aim for Hollywood?

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ENFP's and Long Distance Relationships (or relationships with Men who go away for long periods) -

Ggirl — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 03:32:42 GMT

I am an ENFP woman. I was married to an INTJ for almost 15 years and left. He was devasted. A man who never cried in his life, cried. But he was always gone, albeit working-- Never around for my emotional needs and when he was,..well he is an INTJ... I am now involved with a INFJ (one letter diff. ) and he is my soul mate--but one problem.. he is far away. Do you think ENFP should avoid long distance relationships? I mean i'm already stressing---

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Second Year of College: No Clue

Jannie — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 19:53:20 GMT

I have recently found out through multiple personality tests that I am indeed an ENFP. Knowing this has really helped me evaluate myself, and what I stand for. However, I have no idea what to do with my life. Reading through recent topics, I can see that this is kind of typical for most ENFPs in the sense that we all get bored with things pretty quickly. I am only twenty and have a lot of life to live and a lot of energy to offer to help other people in various ways. However, I have no idea where to even start in choosing a major. I am currently in Accounting and pretty much know that I am not nearly organized enough, or disiplined enough to carry out that career choice. It seems like the majority of the people on this site are a little bit older than me and I have learned even more about myself through looking over all of these posts with everybody's advice to each other.

Any advice?

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Best cities for ENFP

Jordan — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 04:25:22 GMT

Heya guys and gals ! First off this is an amazing little corner of the internet. Every thing here has been very cathartic! It is great finding about other people like me!

I have lived in Miami for over 5 years and I am sick of it. I am looking for a new city to live in and have been really considering NY or LA. I am an artists so it really needs to be one of those two. However, art does not make money - it costs a lot of money! So in order to fund my art I do video/editing/motion graphics.

Any one have any ideas or reports from LA or NYC and how you like them as an ENFP? Or if you want to through in an oddball city that fine too! I was also thinking about Berlin, Germany.... so many options!

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Your star sign? Is there a pattern?

Stephanie — Sat, 24 Jan 2004 04:36:25 GMT

I'd be interested to see if there is a correlation between star sign and personality type. Please feel free to share your astrological goodness:

Aries (fire sign).

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High - Paying ENFP Jobs?

Katie — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 02:39:59 GMT

I, too just discovered this website and am SO relieved to discover there are others like me! What I really need is advice, and although I'd truly love to drop out of school and travel the world and help and learn from many different cultures and people, I must focus on first creating financial stability. The possibilities are endless - I know, but please, are there any promising and stable careers that I would enjoy for that first step during/after college? As much as I wish money did not matter, what high paying careers could I start out with before pursuing my millions of ideas and interests?

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Barack Obama ENFP?

Christine — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 05:54:48 GMT

I love Barack Obama. Do you guys like him too? I think he is really authentic and real. He is a wonderful speaker also.
Do you think his personaltiy type is, its definately NF, I tought maybe ENFJ but an article online says ENFP/
WHat you you all think. An NF president would be the first!!!! How does the person writing the article know their MBTI. Did they find them from high school or something?

Heres and article,,,
http://www.slate.com/id/2184696/pagenum/all/

Hillary ESTJ
McCain ESTP
Obama ENFP

I think

Hillary ESTJ
McCain ESTP... not sure
Obama ENFJ

If Barack reads this he can chime in too. We would like to know!!

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Any ENFP painters/artists here?

dreamer — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 23:49:43 GMT

Hi, I am new to this ENFP group. Nice to meet U all.
Just curious, if any of you are painters? by hand or using computer graphics program.
just wonder if U have any difficulty learning to see " precisely" and training your artistic eye?
thanks for replying.

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my wanderlust brings me to LA and SF week this weekend and till Wed

Flow — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 11:21:15 GMT

would love to hang with ENFP and see where it takes us . . .

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Dating Other ENFP's

TinkerBell — Tue, 15 Jan 2008 04:30:24 GMT

Are we really that unauthentic, hard-to-read, and carry on several relationships at the same time... so you never know when you're gonna get replaced?

OMG... I can't date another ENFP! .... even though I'm one too :D

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Is this a strange trait for a typical 'social' ENFP?

Melissa — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 17:15:47 GMT

Although I'm an ENFP, and I enjoy to socialize during the day while I'm at work, I tend to only want to spend time with my boyfriend in the evening as opposed to chilling with lots of friends. I HATE talking on the phone and Facebook is totally a pain in the butt for me..in fact, I'm pretty much not using it these days. I have 2 close friends and don't really feel the need for more. Is this typical?? Everything I read seems to imply that we're the types with crowds of friends...sometimes I wish I had a large group of friends, but it would exhaust me to keep up all of the necessary things (visiting, phoning, etc.) on a regular basis to keep it strong. I'm borderline with "I", so perhaps that's just an introverted quality?

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career advice

mashal — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 11:43:01 GMT

hey ppl,
i need some advice
im a fourth year med school student (put in med school against wishes).......

i considered dropping out of med school at one point but then i thought ,might aswell stick to it till the end of the course.
now that graduation is only a year away i really need to decide on what i need to do after this....
i need to know if theres some way i can blend my traits as an ENFp with a medical speciality...
or even get into something which is related to medicine>

id really appreciate ur help

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The most annoying thing about an ENFP...

Mimi Maya — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 00:18:33 GMT

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Forums for ENFPs

joe — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 02:40:59 GMT

hey guys. I just wanted to let you all know of an MBTI-based forum specifically designed for ENFPs, which just opened up a few weeks ago. Typology-based forums aren't too uncommon, but up until very recently the ENFPs haven't had too many meeting places to come and bounce ideas off of one another regularly. This is a shame, because the ENFP personality loves to meet people, share ideas, and generally see social outliers realize their full potential. Because of that, an ENFP "hub" would be both useful to the ENFPs themselves, who are looking for kindred spirits and generally feel a few steps crazier than other people, as well as other types (especially the highly misunderstood INxx ones. I'm an INTP, for the record) who could make use of their experience and advice. As far as I know, this is the only site which is fully devoted to ENFPs, rather than having them as smaller groups on other social networking sites (like this one)

So if you're interested to meet other ENFPs and discuss ideas or situations with them frequently, as well as pass along your knowledge and point of view to other MBTI-enthusiasts who aren't ENFP, please come by and offer your points of view. Tell your other friends, too!

http://www.enfpforum.com/Forum.aspx

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Maps, Food, and Privacy

Molly — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 03:22:13 GMT

After reading some of these wonderful posts by fellow ENFPs and doing some soul searching..as we do.. I was wondering if any of you could relate to these issues:

Maps- I have zero sense of direction.. I could be shown how to get some where 3 or 4 times and still get lost. I'm usually too busy chatting with the person showing me..to take notice in where we are actually going.. and then I think.. I'll remember where it is.. and usually don't. Is a tiny problem as a world traveller:) Thus.. making me late all the time!

Food- I feel the need to be eating different things everyday.. You won't find me with the same ham sandwich in my lunch bag all the time.. and planning to cook something for dinner always has to be something interesting.

Privacy- As I get older I am becoming more and more protective of my privacy. I think I was once an open book.. but, now perhaps after a few emotional scars.. I become progressively more annoyed with people who intervene my personal space..

Anyone…

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PUPPIES and RAINBOWS!!!! and Castanada

Chuck — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 02:08:17 GMT

Ok so now that u fell for some good ol' enfp marketing, you will be compelled to follow on thru my rant! You could help me (its in your nature!!!) First time triber and long time enfp. Just discovered i was one, but it runs deep.
Im in the midst of a dark and loomy depression. You know. the one that feels like your head weighs more than a volkswagon, expands like the universe, and as empty as Jonestown. I just cant shake it! Goin off and on since my Spelunker into darkness after my baseball career ended and my parents divorced. Not sure which had more impact, but they were only a few months apart, oh and broke up w/ a damn PRO CHEERLEADER in between the two... ( what was i thinking?)
First off, let me set up the cenario: I was raised with money and 2 parents who were self made success stories. Your classic " Im gonna work my ass off to make sure my kids have it better than i did" parents. I have 2 sibs. A younger sister who is now a modle and fashion designer, and an older half brother who works as a project engineer. I was the middle kid who was supposed to be the pro athlete and complete the set. Spent the first 21 yrs of my life completely dedicated to my sport. Im talking to the point of switching schools my senior year to play for a state champion team. (Got caught by the way) Still made it on to play some juco ball purely through my work ethic and had a great time my 2 years there. Skip to my last season and my coach benching me for the playoffs, we won the national championship. That was the way my ellustrious career ended. On the bench... I was crushed. While my team was running around the hotel gettin TRASHED, i spent the night crying in the shower. When coach called up to get my ring size, i didnt want that memory to be my last one of the game i loved for so long, "so order the fattest ring they have and shove it up your A**" My pops had started a job that kept him away from home for 3 yrs straight, so he missed the whole episode at the juco, and more importantly, left my mom alone in the house. She decided she couldnt take it any longer, so she filed the papers w/o even a phone call to the man. They tried to act like it was no big deal for us kids, and tried to keep it real hush hush. 'it doesnt concern you, so just get your work done' Heard that over and over... also heard mom say she never really loved dad and had pops tell me he wasnt 'happy with the way he raised me.' WOW thanks ass holes.. This sent me over the edge. Started lashing out at everything within arms reach. Its amazing no one but me ended up getting hurt and that was a masochistic act of trying to knockout a brick wall.
I thought that would be the deepest part the depression, but in reality it was only the first steps into the tunnel. Its not all bad though. The forest fire clears the dead and lame unerbrush and re fuels the soil with nutrients. Its led me through a long path to self-actualization and really getting to know people. This path also led me to Carlos Castanada and the indio-spiritual views of what it means to be a man. If youve never heard of him, check it out. It starts as a journey of the Hunter, which progresses to the Warrior, and finally if you havent lost touch or become complacent, a Man of Knowledge. But back to the rant. So i dropped out of college for the same high paying job that split my parents up ( ironic) and i love it. But now im at a place where ive got a beautiful amazing woman back home waiting on me, but i cant keep her happy with this job. And to make it worse, ive been paired up w my pops for this most recent send off. Damn how that can get in the way of self discovery...
I guess what im really getting to with all this, is how the hell do EFNP's get over past failures? Its like my subconcious is locked into everything negatve around me. Ive got a great way of rationalizing out anything positive as WEAK and its gettin old.

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Sigh...

TinkerBell — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 03:44:46 GMT

Bored again.
I know this probably sounds immature and restless, but the world suddenly today, at this very moment, seems very gray.
All the golden glows and jewel tones have dissapeared.
Can any one relate?

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Hello! From Penang, Malaysia

WillingTan — Sat, 02 May 2009 12:58:59 GMT

Hi!

I guess I feel @ Home...! :)

Just want to connect, share and feel @ Home.

With admiration,
WillingTan

Attract it!

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HELP Me

Thrifty — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 14:25:06 GMT

I am unemployed and with health insurance. 3 month wait to see a doctor at the community health center. I've been off Lamictal for 5 months and my life sux. Only 50mg daily but what a difference! This medication was my lifeline.

If you have any advice please email me at thethriftymama@yahoo.com

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Like looking in a Freaking Mirror!

Brendan — Mon, 14 Jan 2008 22:22:40 GMT

Do the rest of you hear this a lot:

"We're so much alike it's scary!"

I've had the most unusual cross-section of people over the years tell me how incredibly alike we were. In some ways. it's flattering to know I did that good of a job relating to them and speaking their language, but in another way, I have to wonder sometimes if all of it's really me. or if any of it is. Are you all chameleons, too?

Something potentially related, I often get this as well:

"You look EXACTLY like (my big brother/former roommate/ex-boyfriend/co-worker/dead bike friend/etc)!"

In my life, I've been fat, I've been scrawny, I've been well muscled, I've had a runner's build... I've had short brown hair, long blonde hair, a blue braided mohawk down to my ass and currently I'm bald with a long black ponytail sticking out of the back of my head.

Regardless of how outlandishly I've decorated myself with hairstyles, clothing or body types, people have a feeling they've met me before.

Do you think there's a connection? Do you guys get that reaction, too?

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After marriage, do all female ENFP's continue to flirt with other men?

John — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 14:07:03 GMT

A while ago ... oh, I'm probably INFP or INTP ... yes, a while ago, I had a harrowing time with an ENFP girl who, in my view, shamelessly led me up the garden path. After giving me non-stop signals for a few months, when I got serious and nailed my colors firmly to the mask, telling her that I liked her, she said she was in the process of making up with her former boyfriend.

The signals she gave me were beyond friendly flirting, but extended to those kind of subtle emotional tests that some women seem to do unconsciously test the response of the men that they're notionally interested in. I say she threw those tests at me subconsciously because I give her the benefit of the doubt because, if her emotional tests were done consciously, then I'd deem she was callous even cruel. So I give her the benefit of the doubt. (In the end, she apologized, which suggests it may not have been totally subconscious).

From what I read on these forums, you ENFP's seem to be saying that ENFP's just do this sort of flirting and emotional testing simply because that's the way you're wired, and that you don't intend it to be callous.

A friend of mine previously cautioned me about women who are flirty, because of their inner emotional neediness. She also warned me about that ENFP woman, saying that, if she's like that as a single, she'll continue to be flirty even when she's married, and the marriage would continually be rocked by her needing to flirt to gain emotional reinforcement from men flocking around her. She had observed this ENFP woman even flirting with married men. She said other women hated this ENFP and didn't trust their husbands around her.

Why I'm asking this is because I'm finding myself getting attracted to a second ENFP woman. Having been bitten once, I'm now overly cautious in stepping across the line and initiating a relationship with this second ENFP.

Basically -- Myers Briggs side, any husband wants a wife who is loyal and exclusive to him, and no doubt any wife wants that from her husband too.

Did I just run into a bad-cookie ENFP, or are all ENFP's actually susceptible to flirting with other men even after they're married? I must say, this would drive me insane. I don't mind wives having male friends!!!! But a wife flirting with other men just would be too much for me to handle.

If the majority of ENFP women flirt, even after they're married, are ENFP marriages susceptible to risk?

Sure, the ENFP's husband can be secure etc. but if the woman is flirting, the fact is, she's stimulating feelings in other men which, sometimes, can go to the next level.

Is any relationship with an ENFP at risk, or am I just paranoid because of my previous bad experience?

I love the ENFP personality because it brings out the best in me, but I don't want to enter a relationship and marriage that is potentially risky because of the woman's inability to not flirt with other men even after marriage.

Are there any non-flirty ENFP's?

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ENFP relationship with INFP

Mon, 13 Aug 2007 01:58:33 GMT

have any of you ever had a close relationship or friendship with an INFP?

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Projecting My Feelings Upon Others' Opinions of Me

Christa — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 23:53:43 GMT

I know that title sounded kind of like a earful but here's the situation:
I'm flighty. I recognize that this isn't always a bad attribute but can actually make me really fun to be around.

But here I am, lustfully examining all of my future careers and relationships -- not to mention, each time I have a new plan for myself I announce it wholeheartedly to many -- and I am becoming more and more embarrassed to have conversations with other people because I'm assuming that they think it's another one of my "stages". The reason? Probably because I'm pretty sure I'm just going through another "stage" since my ENFPness makes me so dang restless.

Even when I'm feeling 100% committed to something:
A new entrepreneurial idea, for example -- I spend hours and hours researching it and know the business inside and out...
A new career, for another example -- I spend $$$, months, or even years to even complete the program with honors...
THEN I GET BORED!

It is affecting my ability to communicate with my live-in boyfriend, because I'm embarrassed and afraid that he won't back me or believe that I can actually follow through with anything. I'm sure this is because if I were watching anyone else doing what I do, I'd be the same exact way. I'd say, "Yeah, sure, sweetie. You go do that!" and secretly be thinking, "I wonder how long this one will last."

So I know it's entirely reasonable for him to feel this way about me and not blindly accept that every new idea I have is going to be my life calling, but darn it I still like to feel supported and I feel like there's no way to have both.

Does anyone have this issue? If so, how do you come to terms with it?

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I seem to struggle with college in general, is it the ENFP in me?

Cassi — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 02:39:36 GMT

Right now I'm a young women going into my 3rd year of college and I feel like I've gotten know where... I can't decide what I want to do because for some reason school is really hard for me....I feel bored and like I want to get on with it all and be closer to getting on with my life. I've been part time the whole time and so I have 3 more years and I feel like throwing in the towel, which for me is a not an option almost... I always perservere, I don't know if that's an ENFP thing, to never give up and if college can be such a struggle to stick with a major, do ENFPs struggle with school? I always have that feeling like I'm missing out on something and that there's a different major I need to do. I also have considered a technical school or leadership school. I've wanted to help troubled youth in the outdoor environment and do missionary work but I know the pay is pretty low and what do I do if I want to have a family and be a wife someday? Do we make good stay at home moms?

Any career advice or majors? I've thought of being a Nurse, Teacher, Counselor, or Pastor...I just know I want to help people and I know that you probably can relate! :)

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ENFP Married and perpetually attracted to INTJ's, but having trouble with boredom. Anyone?

somona — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 06:24:31 GMT

I married an INTJ, who when younger, was very much into going out and doing fairly fun, spur of the moment things at the convincing of his much more outgoing male friends. When we started getting serious though, he dropped the entire "I'm spontaneous and like to do fun things" act, and has resolved to be happy just staying at home..working, or...just staying at home. The more years go by-it's been almost 10 that we've been together-the less he talks! This kills me because, hello!! I have to talk! He tells me he already knows most everything about me, so what really is there to talk about?? Huh?!!? Seriously, when he said that, I felt pain in my heart, and envisioned a life of just talking to myself or the wall.

On the positive side, he pays the bills and washes the dishes. I take care of our kids, of which there are two, all day long. Childcare is more up my alley, and I have a blast in this regard. Nonetheless, he thinks that taking care of the kids isn't "real" work-eventhough he would never trade places with me because he finds childcare too stressful.

The other thing is that he is well, sexually reserved. I'm pretty much open to anything with our relationship. And eventhough he has had far more partners than I have, I always felt like I had more experience. I want to explore, and he wants to put the breaks on that exploration right as the idea gets on the table. I feel like we are at constant stalemates, and are always arguing. I almost feel as though his serious side is sucking the joy out of me. Has anyone dealt with marital or long-term issues with an INTJ? Everything I've read says they are perfect for our type, but I'm thinking now that NFer would have been sooo much easier! :-(

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Do you find yourself dating older people?

Christine — Sun, 12 Aug 2007 15:54:21 GMT

I find myself liking older men. Im 26, so men in their mid to thrities-to forty. I guess I like feeling like Im being the object of affection and taken care of. Also older men are more mature and sometimes more intelligent. (not always true I know) My first love was my English teacher in High School! I develop crushes on teachers a lot, mabye cause they are mostly N's.
Or maybe its a daddy thing?

Does anyone else feel the same attraction to older people, not just dating but older friends too?

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Umm, ENFP having trouble making friends..

Denyse — Fri, 09 Nov 2007 09:34:52 GMT

So, that's me. Is this alien to all of you?

I blame it on my conversation preference. Most conversations make my eyes glaze over.

Also, I find I can only talk to someone when I pretend they're my friend already. But this makes other people uncomfortable, I'm sure. And then when other people are uncomfortable, I'm uncomfortable. It isn't socially acceptable to do this. I long for places where it is, like certain festivals. I'm sure if I was at Woodstock, for example, I'd feel like I could speak to anyone there. But anywhere else, it's all small talk, and I just can't do it to get past it. I end up not becoming friends with anyone who does small talk to get to know people.

Most things that people talk to me about, I just can't inject my personality into it because it doesn't interest me. It's not my type of conversation. I'll give some examples. Talking about movies? I'd much rather watch the movie with them and make quips about it. Anything about the other person's life, I don't know what to say, most of the time. And small talk is just the worst. I put on my inhibited personality and try not to look COMPLETELY awkward.

Then I just don't know what to talk about, especially if I feel I have no reason to talk to them.

The things I am interested in talking about? They're the subtleties in life, things that most people overlook. I wish I could think of an example. These topics rarely have a place to come up. This saddens me... And anything I say has to be unique or I just can't say it for some reason. Gah. :P

So, is there any advice for me? Do you suppose I'll be fine with my own conversation preference? Does anyone else have trouble making friends? Is anyone else's brain this confusing? :P

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Music and Moods

asidemichelle — Tue, 16 Oct 2007 15:38:16 GMT

Are any of you highly sensitive to music? I know music is important to many people and it's seen as a major part of who you are (you are what you listen to?), but music is as essential as breathing to me. It can change, control, or enhance my moods to the point where I'm starting to manipulate myself by listening to happier songs when I'm feeling down. Then again, I have days where I just want to sit and sulk. You need those, too.

I thought you all might enjoy listing what you tend to listen to when you're feeling a certain way.

Here are some categories for starters. Feel free to take off and run with it!

Happy:
Energetic:
Creative:
Turning a new leaf:

Sad:
Tired:
Depressed:
Facing a challenge:

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relating to ENFP's on online dating site

John — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 15:14:16 GMT

What's the best way to get to know female ENFP's on an online dating site? Is it best to be yourself and tell your entire life story in the first connection, or just be friendly in a superficial way in the beginning? The problem with online dating is that you often only get one shot at it so it'd be nice to know a good approach from the beginning.

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Are all ENFPs ADD like me??

Marie — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 23:53:06 GMT

Hey! I'm super excited to find an online community full of people like me! When I first took the MBTI I read "Portrait of an ENFP" as found on personality page (http://www.personalitypage.com/ENFP.html) and felt like someone had been reading my diary!

I'm learning more and more about my own personality type and things just keep making more and more sense, but one thing I was hoping to get some feedback on is whether being distracted is an intrinsic part of an ENFP's personality, or if it is just me! I am extremly excitable/distractable and people seem to love to have me around as I bring fun into all environments, but I struggle with getting things done! I dont know if this is just part of how ENFP's suffer with follow through or if there is more to it than that. I am a fairly bright person and I have read that most ENFPs are, but I am now in grad school and in order to get stuff done have to be on ADD meds!

I was wondering if this is common among ENFPs, and for those of you who struggle with paying attention/getting things done, do you have any suggestions for me besides meds?

Looking forward to feedback!

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I belive I am an ENFP, but Is the extrovert in me repressed, or am I an INFP? Maybe Im both. Can any one relate to this?

Louie — Mon, 14 Jan 2008 21:23:13 GMT

Hello! I took a Myers-Briggs personality test and scored ENFP. I read a thorough description of this personality type, and found that I do have just about every thing that makes one an ENFP. I am much closer to the discription of an ENFP than the one of the INFP. I see the world as being full of choices and opportunities, I find daily routine trivial and boring, I seek intense emotional experiences, I always evaluate my values, I get excited about new things easily, start many projects with out finishing them, I constantly try to figure out what my self is and try to be me, Im very intuitive about people, I love being around people, making new friends, and I gain energy easily from energetic people etc. Infact, I almost need to be around energetic people to have energy. I also have been known to do things like get a whole concert of people dancing.
But one thing is missing. I have trouble talking to people I don’t know, and I experience lots of social anxiety. I guess I am afraid to be my self around most people. Does that make me an introvert, or is the extrovert in me repressed? I have a feeling I would be a lot happier if I could get past my fears of talking to people I don’t know. I always do feel really good after having a conversation with someone I don’t know. I have suffered from a lot of depression. I also frequently judge people as being inferior to me, or that they wont identify with me. I often feel I was meant to live in the sixties. But the bottom line is that I am not sure if I have repressed an important part of my personality, or if I am actually an introvert. Maybe I just never learned how to socialize with people who are different than me and the extrovert in me has been really unhappy. Can any one shed some light on my problem, and or identify with me? maybe I shouldnt
worry about labels so much, but I really think I could be an extrovert at heart.

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Who's your favorite ENFP Celebrity/Hero?

TinkerBell — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 01:36:17 GMT

Right now, mine is Sir Richard Branson -- the Virgin Records founder!

I wanna celebrate your ENFP'ness... (that is only a Freudian slip for dirty minds!) :P

I wanna see what other ENFP's have accomplished and see how they did it...
I'm sure it's with the help of J's somewhere...

What do ya' think?

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I made an ENFP video clowning around on youtube yesterday...........................

Nate — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 18:38:46 GMT

bored at home sick lol ? well hopefully its hits a few funny bones i have never done anything like it before.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WgXYjKodP84

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Help stop the ENFP madness. ENFP engaged to an ESTP.

heather — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 00:18:45 GMT

Ok, please help. I am engaged to an ESTP and losing my mind. We have been engaged for over a year, and had our 1st argument on Thanksgiving. Two days later, I stumbled upon socionics.com and read that we are a bad match. It states we both will still have the desire for things to work out, but the conflicts will still be there.

Help. This is in my head constantly. I can’t be happy around him. I love being around him, but, like someone else here noted, I feel rejected. I fear we don’t speak the same language. The truth is, we don’t. Literally. He only speaks Spanish. 8 months in, I’d say I was fluent. So when I think about it, I fear I wrote off a lot of miscommunications we’d had because of the language barrier.

Look, I’ve committed to him. And that’s something I’ve found so hard to do. I dated an INTJ for 5 years, and it was hell on earth. It was a Supervisor relationship for sure. And I was supervised. But, I had my flings. It was a very unhealthy relationship. I thought I fell for an ESFP, but ended up losing all respect for him when I realized I’d have to be the responsible one, and after he got more needy and weepy than me (a tough feat to do). I also dated an INTP, and we did exactly what Socionics said we would. Nothing. But he kinda seemed needy to me too.. but that may have just been his low self-esteem, which I also find unattractive.

I just, I’ve never committed to someone like this. I’ve been so sure for so long that I love him and want to be with him, that this new doubt circling around my head is driving me, quite literally, insane. I started thinking about it the other night when we were at his friends’ house, and I started crying. Huge lump in the throat, teary watery eyes, wanted to run from the room, but had no excuse to, got up to go to the bathroom and totally got called out on the tears. I never want to see those people again.

In those moments, I need someone who’ll hold me and tell me to shut up and relax (w/ a kiss, of course). I know I’m being ridiculous and letting my internal hamster wheel of thoughts run me over, but I get caught in it. Like I’m in some rat race and can’t get out. I want someone who’ll grab my hand and pull my out.

I scared him. He thought he’d done something wrong. He went on the defensive. “What did I do?” No. You didn’t do anything. Help me. Please, help me. Just, know what to say to calm me down. I can still hear myself pleading with him in my head. Then I remembered what socionics.com said. That these are relationships of huge misunderstandings. And that we never share our intentions. So, I blurted out what I hate vocalizing, my emotional weaknesses. I told him, (all in Spanish), “look, when I’m like this, I’m not mad. I’m not upset with you, I’m usually not even thinking about you. Tonight, I was thinking about how I don’t seem to make you happy. How I feel like I scare you or put you on edge. Then I started feeling guilty and it made me sad. That’s why I got sad. And look, I do this more than you know. I’ve always been like this. I need someone who’ll hold me when I’m like this and tell me everythings gonna be ok.” And he held me and gave me a kiss. And hugged me and looked me in the eyes and told me, “I know you. I know who you are. I know you don’t get mad at me, I love that about you. Everything is gonna be ok, because I love you.” And for a moment, everything was perfect.

We later went home, and got into bed and started cuddling, and I said to him what was running through my mind, something I thought he would love to hear as much as I loved being able to truthfully say it: “You know, you’re the only thing I need in this world.” And you know what he said back? “You’re all I need, too. I don’t know why think I’m not.” And went on the defensive. Not angry, but just, genuinely, not getting where I’m coming from at all. He felt attacked. Not re-assured or loved, like I’d intended.

My heart is breaking. I’m in some weird circle that I want out of. I know relationships take work, and I want to put in the effort and actually stick with him. I love him so much, and I love us, and I love his family, and my family loves him. He’s learning English, just like I’ve learned Spanish, and I love our story, and our little life we’ve built together. He has a lot of SJ traits, but never fit into the SJ thing completely.

I want so badly to get this fear out of my head. I want to be. Just be. And be happy, and make him happy, but I just don’t know how. I’ve written novels all over notebooks at home, and since we’re mostly ENFP’s here, I’m sure you all get how I read a lot of stuff on here and internalize it, but don’t know what to make of it exactly. I know I write a lot, and feel like I ramble (do we all do these guilty disclaimers?)

I’m just, at the point of begging. I’ve been to therapists, but they’re so Freudian, if you know what I mean. There’s something to this MBTI business, that sometimes I wish I could deny, but we all know we can’t. The truths just keep presenting themselves.

The issue I’ve had is I’ve read all about the difficulties about ENFP/ESTP relationships, but nothing about how to deal with them. If we’re not understanding eachother, how can we? What things can I say that will make him feel good? How do I work with this relationship and stick with it because I want to be here? How do I stop my psychotic rampages? Help, help, help, and help.

And thank you.

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Is anyone Bipolar

Cynthia — Tue, 20 Feb 2007 23:34:34 GMT

Hey,
I've recently stumbled across the fact that a lot of ENFP's as well as INFP's
also have been diagnosed as bipolar!
Just curious, if anyone cares to share, for how many of you that this is true,
since it seems like our personalities tend to be very polar as well?!?

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more Dom or more Sub?

angelartz — Sat, 16 Feb 2008 17:44:44 GMT

Just watched "the Secretary" last night and it really enveloped my dreams and make me think about which tendency I tend to draw towards....dominant or submissive?

I'm definately more dominant in many ways in life, at work, doing my art, having my own time, don't like people telling me what to do, always debating for fun and having random experiences on my own time, .....BUT I hate being dominant in all aspects of any kind of intimate relationship.....since I will do everything (plan things, shop, initiate sex, what have you) but I start getting resentful if I'm ALWAYS the one initiating things. I really find that I am both = switchy.

Just curious what others might tend towards?

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Repairing a Situation with an ENFP friend

Vagabond — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 05:31:26 GMT

Hello! I have a very dear friend who is an ENFP in the extreme. A while back, he was very sick for a long period of time and felt useless because he was mostly bedridden. I am an INFP, so I like to fix things... I let myself become dependent on him for a lot of things like encouragement, companionship, inspiration, etc., wanting him to feel as though he was at least doing some good in the world. That pattern became very well established, and continued well after the "feeling useless" phase of life.

Things have gotten a little weird between us, and so I've started reading a lot of personality stuff to figure out why. I read one description that said people tend to look toward ENFPs for wisdom, inspiration, direction, etc., rather frequently, and that this can be very stressful for them. Do you find that to be true?

I wanted him to feel needed, not overwhelmed. The truth is, I don't NEED his opinion or encouragement, I just prefer it. I trust his judgment and perception more than other people, and I respect his encouragement of me more because he's very intelligent, and so it means a lot more to me coming from him and seems more authentic. How do I communicate that?

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Getting to the Truth. Reading Recommendations.

TC — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 07:38:57 GMT

Since I am new to Tribe, I thought that I would share a couple of great books that have helped me in my own personal quest to get to the truth.

1. Burning All Illusions by David Edwards.
2. The Unconscious Civilization by John Raulston Saul
3. Anything by Fromm.
4. The Farther Reaches of Human Nature by Abraham Maslow
5. Brave New World by Aldous Huxley

Has anyone else read any of these books? If so, please comment. Also, please feel free to add your own recommendations.

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ENFP and Out of Control!

Angela — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 07:35:47 GMT

Let me break it down into areas... Problem 1 hard time expressing myself to people.
I have a hard time expressing myself to people when it's not abstract poetry using metaphors.

This one sort of overlaps the next problem which is Problem 2 crying way too easily
When I talk about my problems in person or on the phone I cry VERY easily

Not just talking about problems.. pretty much every emotion I cry.

Angry (which rarely happens.. I really don't get angry, I get sad.)
Sad (When something specific happens, usually, or I spend too much time in my head reflecting on how much I miss an ex, or something)
Embarrassed (this is a HUGE one. Even in past jobs if I was receiving corrective criticism I would sometimes shed tears, it's uncontrollable, and it's cost me jobs and friendships..)

Problem 3 - Very easily attached and very hard to unattach
I fall in love left and right and have a hard time keeping track of it all.. I don't seriously mean "fall in love", I know those are big words, but I become attached and find myself wanting to be in a relationship or be intimate with more than one guy at one time in my life.

No matter how long it's been, I still feel like I'm in love with every last ex.. Jay and it's been 1 year, Russ and it's been 2 or 3, I remember them, the cute little things, the attachment, and I find myself depressed and missing them.

Problem 4- Irresponsible, messy, unorganized 

Mine is one of the worst cases I've ever seen, now I haven't always been this bad but I've ALWAYS been unorganized.. but right now I can look around and see at least 15 empty or half empty bottles, a few plates and bowls, and a foot high carpet of laundry and trash around my bed, as if I used my floor as a waste basket. -this is not new, I have always been like this, but the amount of time between regular cleanings and laundry-doing is less and less these days, I don't know how judgmental everyone will be on be, but I'm trying to be honest, at this point, I haven't washed laundry in months. There's nothing clean left.. I buy new underwear rather than do laundry and find the cleanest pair of pants on the floor.. I'm often late, but it comes in spurts.. sometimes I'm often early.. I can't figure myself out!

Okay, I'll start with this and see what you have to say.. thank you :/

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Anyone else here HATE cooking&cleaning pasionately!!!!!

tooshae — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 22:36:33 GMT

I joined today just so I could post this question!

I have a husband and 4 kids that I LOVE very much, but I hate the domestic part of this role! If I could talk to, laugh with, encourage, play with, and go out with my family all of the time, well I'd be in heaven! BUT as any wife and/or mother knows, this is NOT the only part of parenting! There's the reminding, nagging, explaining, cleaning, cooking, chauffering, refereeing, cleaning, cooking, washing, supervising, WORK, WORK, WORK part of parenting that in truth, takes up 75%.

I hate cooking (and actually food preperation in general) more than I can even express with mere words, and yet I HAVE to do it. I could get all premade, freezer style meals, but these aren't great for you and honestly not that tastey.

Can I get a witness?! Does anyone else feel this way about cooking and household routine in general?

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I'm having a career crisis...HR or no HR?

Tue, 09 Dec 2008 15:30:31 GMT

Can someone please help me? I'm working in an office as an HR Assistant and I've had a serious case of cabin-fever for the past 2 years! I don't know if HR is the right career path for me - I don't know if it's just the office environment in which I'm working that is making me a little stir-crazy, or if there's more to it. Are the tracking, data-entry, administrative tasks, etc. going to continue to be a major part of my HR career, even if I advance in the field? I feel like a policy enforcer and I feel like I'm always focusing on check-lists and tiny details. I've considered switching over to nursing, but I don't know that many ENFP nurses. Anyone have suggestions??

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one sheep, two sheep, three sheep, four...

Johnathan — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 23:17:04 GMT

trying to go to sleep is such a bore.
trying and trying countless times
hey, I think this kinda rhymes!
Well anyways, Im an ENFP
can someone save me from this cotastrophy?
My mind keeps racing
and i can't stop facing,
the fact that I just cant fall asleep,
By closing my eyes and counting sheep
Am I a lonely ENFP
Is there anyone out there who's with me?

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Advice You'd Give to Your Younger Self...

Gerry — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 17:33:38 GMT

I stepped over to the INFP tribe and noticed they have one of these threads, so I thought you'd all might be interested in doing a bit of retrospection and baring your soul [but then again, isn't every post we have here retrospection and baring your soul?].

So the question is: What WOULD you tell your younger ENFP self to help them avoid the mistakes they made and emphasize the successes they had. No subject is taboo: Social growth, finances, relationships, careers, education, family, friends, sex... Everything.

As always I look forward to y'all's responses and... Thank you.

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INTP falling for ENFP- need help big time

John — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 10:47:24 GMT

Folks,

I hope you don't mind me posting here. I'm an INTP and I'm falling for an ENFP. My situation is incredibly complicated and I would really appreciate the thoughts of some ENFPs. OK, here goes.

My wife of 15 years died about 5 months ago. We could never quite work out her type, but probably iNFj. I have three kids. Over the last few months, I've been pretty much besotted by an ENFP (its really obvious on all four) who has been helping me out with babysitting and is a member of a club I am part of. I am more attracted to her personality than her looks, although she is lovely to look at as well. I'm not as shy as many INTPs, but she definitely brings me out of my shell. My feelings toward her are so intense that I am struggling to function normally at work and home and am becoming quite depressed at time (VERY unlike me).

The last few weeks have been really difficult. Because I have a quite public role in my community, because of my kids (who absolutely love her as well) and because of the fact that I am not sure I've come far enough in my grieving, I haven't asked her out. In fact, I've decided not to do anything until March. Dating on a trial and error basis isn't really an option for me. I need to know that there is a fair chance that we might end up married as a succession of girlfriends would not be appropriate to my public role. Aaaaagh!!!!

My current strategy is to seek to meet with her as often as possible in group situations where hopefully I can get to know her a little bit better as a friend and see if there are any obvious reasons why it would/wouldn't work. But I have a couple of questions that are constantly in my mind.

(i) does she like me romantically (I realise that you guys like pretty much everyone)? How could I know? Are there signs to look for?
(ii) could I make her happy? She is into adventure stuff big time, mountain climbing, jumping into rivers and the like. I have a home and three kids and need things to be pretty stable for their sakes. I would hate to squash her or have her feeling constrained. She is single with no kids.

PROS.
(i) my own attraction toward her (and particularly the fact that its personality driven rather than looks driven).
(ii) she has expressed interest in how I am doing at fairly deep levels and I have been able to open up to her partially (this is significant- I don't open up easily).
(iii) Unlike most people, she gets my humor and it makes her laugh out loud, sometimes uncontrolably. She does laugh a lot, but I've not seen her have such a strong reaction with other folks.
(iv) I do feel a connection, a clicking with her, but I'm aware this might be something everyone feels toward ENFPs.
(v) She sent me a text on Christmas Day (clutching at straws now?)
(vi) We've had one or two moments when she has been lost for words. From reading elsewhere, some ENFPs suggest this might be a sign that their Fi is active. Who knows?
(vii) We share very similar and strong values.
(viii) At a concert, she arrived with a friend and when I went up to them to say "hi", they were surprised, because they had been looking for me and thought I was over on the other side of the arena.

CONS
(i) she doesn't always turn up to events where she's said "I'll see you on ..." This freedom of spirit doesn't bother me generally, but given that I'm so taken with her, it kinda hurts. It also suggests to me that maybe she's not interested in me romantically. If I have an opportunity to go somewhere where she might be, I'll move mountains to be there. Am I reading too much into this?
(ii) she doesn't always return my texts. Maybe she doesn't check her texts or, alternatively, is she trying to send me a gentle ENFP signal- back off!!!
(iii) she talks of going to study for a year in New Zealand. Probably not set in stone, I understand.
(iv) she sometimes appears more interested in the kids than in me. Is this just the situation (ask you out, you jerk!) or is she sending me a coded signal.

At the end of the day, I'll probably ask her out at some point, unless my feelings change, but my biggest concern is that I'll not be able to make/keep her happy.

I'd really appreciate any comments.

J.

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What Is Love to an ENFP?

TinkerBell — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 21:10:53 GMT

Since we have the capacity to befriend so many different types of people due to our chameleon-like abilities.... does it confuse anyone else too with how an ENFP will know if they "love" someone as opposed to just liking them or finding them "interesting/entertaining" for the moment?

What makes it real???

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ENFP?? How??

Elaine — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 02:02:39 GMT

I don't get how I've come out of this test as an ENFP (although there were only a few points between F and T).

I know this sounds a bit harsh but, I don't want to deal with other people's emotional or health problems, yuk! I don't like children much (they can be really mean - I've got one so I know!).

I'm so sick of my admin job I wish I could just leave it but the money's really good, I wouldn't get that much anywhere else.

Almost everything suggested in the list would require a university degree to compete with the youngsters. My ideal situation would be taking voluntary severance, paying a couple of thousand for a course to give me some specific skills, and walking into a job within a few weeks.

I asked my hubby what he thought I would be good at, he seems to think that if I could find a job which involved surfing the internet and shopping for mobile phones all day, I'd be happy.

By the way, hi everyone.

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true love

Stefan — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 18:05:48 GMT

Hi,

(Sorry for very simple english...)

like all others i´m looking for true love in my life.
I also think that ENFP´s must be kind of... addicted to love.
I mean that´s our job right?

I´ve always been a little idealistic...

But sometimes it´s really difficult to believe that true love really exists.
i´ve learned that we ENFP´s are always searching for better solutions and that´s very true to me.

So here is the question: Does true love exist in a society where most people join relationships only depending
on interest and possibility?

There must be some kind of love in this world but i´ve never experienced a feeling that was close enough to meet my expectations.
And I´m not very demanding.

I´m 27, i´ve had some woman and have seen so many relationships..
My goal is to have a nice girl and that my little company i´m about to start is working out.

Is it true that real love is finally a matter of time?

Thx for your comments

Stefan

I hope that you guys understood what my point was.
If not please ask i will do my best...

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for Obama: "CHECK THE WEBSITE AND MOVE ON"

Christine — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 06:47:57 GMT

JUNE 12th 08
"The Obama campaign's launching a new rapid-response website designed to truthsquad all those (Larry Johnson-generated) Internet rumors about the Obama family. It's called FightThe Smears.com.

The site represents a shift in tactics for Chicago. In the past, the campaign refused to talk about the "smears" because they didn't want to give them credibility.

Now they've surrendered to the reality that silence often perpetuates the rumors. By consigning the smears to a website, the Obama campaign gives itself a nifty way to respond to these things. When asked, Obama can simply say, "Check the website" and move on.

Smears/truths addressed so far include the Michelle Obama/hatey whitey rumor, the Barack's a Muslim rumor, and the Barack-won't-say-the-pledge of allegiance rumor."

TRY THIS...
http://my.barackobama.com/page/content/fightthesmearshome/

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Psychology majors...Social Worker, most practical luctative masters degree for general counseling...

Christine — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 13:13:47 GMT

My clinical psychology professor says that a masters in social work is the prob the best choice for psychology majors, because it is very flexible and you can do counseling independently, teach, and do social work as well as many other things.

Are there any people that have opinions on this?

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INTJ Seeks ENFP Opinions

Alex — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 06:00:25 GMT

I recently had a date with an ENFP. When we'd talked on the phone I was amused but not expecting anything much for the date itself. However, lo and behold, I was blown away. I connected with her in a way that I've rarely ever experienced. To put it flatly if Jared's Galleria had been open I would have gone and gotten the ring right then. And for those of you who are familiar with INTJ's this is saying quite a lot. Anyways, the night ended with a spontaneous makeout session (very hot and initiated by her) that left my body vibrating. Again, completely out of character for me. There was little question in my mind that I had just met the person I wanted to spend my life with. However, after a couple of weeks of no returned calls I got an email saying she had met someone a few weeks prior to me and that she was no longer able to "correspond" with me and was sorry if this hurt me because we had had such a "nice" date. Basically I feel as if I've had my future snatched from me not to mention I'm at a loss to understand how she was able to parse down what she called "the hottest first date makeout ever" into a word like "nice". So I'm putting this out there to see what your comments are.

Hit me.

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Trouble leaving bad/mediocre Relationships?

Amanda710 — Fri, 30 Mar 2007 14:29:47 GMT

I've read that ENFPs often have difficulty leaving bad/mediocre relationships in part because of their dislike of conflict and their intense ability to empathize with others. Has anyone else had this problem? Have any other ENFPs hated breaking up with people? (Personally, I'd much rather be broken up *with* than do the dumping myself. I hate conflict and knowing that I've hurt someone's feelings.)

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Any ENFP Academics?

Amanda710 — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 14:21:07 GMT

Are there any ENFP academics out there? I've heard that ENFPs don't often fit into academia, but I think it would also allow one the freedom to learn about anything one would want, which would be very appealling to an ENFP, especially if it were in a field such as Psychology or Anthropology. Plus you would get to teach, which is very ENFP. Has anyone tried for a Ph.D and dropped out because they didn't feel suited to it?

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WTF is wrong with me?

dontpanicorshiver — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 01:44:13 GMT

hi people!

I have to say, that whole "ENFPs sometimes make serious errors in judgment." thing on the personalitypage website is the best possible descriptor for my 2007.

I have been married for 4 years to a guy who is either an ISTJ or an INTP (I can't seem to concentrate long enough to REALLY figure it out.). Maybe you can help me peg him (haha), see, he doesn't like to discuss abstract concepts, but he spends most of his time playing fantasy-related games (MMPORPG's or D&D type stuff). He is obviously an introvert, but I can't figure out if the gears are still turning in his head during all the Silence. (I assume less gears would mean S and more would mean N). We have an EXTREMELY messy house, because neither of us EVER cleans it - this makes me think he's an INTP, cause I read that this can be a problem. Yet we have almost nothing to talk about, other than the movies we see together, what happened to us at work that day or mild gossip about our mutual friends - and he is occasionally up for some kind of theological discussion, but it is rare.
Anywho, part A of this little rant, I guess, is to see if anyone can help me figure out which one he is, so that I can understand him better. It is a little bit ridiculous to me that after all these years I still can't figure him out (dang introverts! haha).

Part B is just me spilling the fact that last year I pretty much carried on an emotional affair with someone else to deal with the all-consuming Lonliness of my current relationship. (and my marriage almost ended, but at the end of the year we decided to try to keep working on it)
I fell HARD for an eNFJ (or possibly iNFJ - if he's an E, he's a quiet one).
Harder than I've ever fallen for anyone in my life. The 4 hour phone conversations feeling like 10 minutes, the complete joy of being serenaded, and serenading him in return.... etc. etc. classic "falling in love." :) We shared some of the most intense times of happiness I've ever experienced - it's left a mark on me. That relationship was so fulfilling, in fact, that I almost completely lost my interest in Sex (we never had sex - but sex has always been, you know, sort of heavily on my mind until last year :P ).... it's really not on my priority list anymore.
I felt like he really believed in me - loved me to new heights of inspiration, in fact. And I'll never be quite the same. But the relationship was (obviously) on the morally wrong side. And he was by no means prepared to start a permanent relationship (he's too young, really)

Anywho, sad times and alas and all that.... I REALLY MISS HIM.

But here I am, trudging away, trying to figure out how to make my non-communicative marriage work!

any advice on either account?

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ENFP finding flow?

Meagan — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 16:17:43 GMT

Being an ENFP has been a total struggle, irresponsibility, ADHD, lack of judgment, and so forth. But the rewards are fantastic! Im spiritually minded, artistic, creative, and happy most of the time! I guess Im wondering how ENFPs use this creative nature to actually flow with the real world. Will we always feel binded to tasks that have to be done? I guess I just want to learn how to survive in a world that does not always applaud the imagination of a brilliant ENFPer! I would like to know how I can use my skills to actually work on handling money, rather than having a significant other doing it. I want to be independent! any comments?

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BARACK OBAMA IS SMART

Christine — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 13:31:51 GMT

Who are people voting for?

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Without a Paddle (hoping for career suggestions)

Brendan — Mon, 14 Jan 2008 08:18:25 GMT

Hi all! I'm going to spill my guts a bit, so if you're not up for the long read

I hope you'll at least read the last sentence and comment with some job suggestions for an ENFP looking for a new career path.

I found this site tonight after giving in to insomnia and googling ENFP careers. Let me ramble at you a bit.

I'm 28, recently married, living in Reston, VA.
After high school I had no idea what to do with college, so I went to Northern Virginia Community College, taking whatever seemed interesting. I never met with a counselor, never had any clear goals, and generally just stopped going to a class if the subject or teacher didn't hold my interest. I attended intermittently while working a colorful variety of jobs, the two most recent being bar/restaurant manager and swimming pool technician. I've been a fish monger, a stage hand, a carpet cleaner, a wood shop sex-toy maker/designer(more boring than it sounds), and a handful of other things.

The main thing I've learned is that I never want to work in a bar or restaurant again, though that's where my most recent management experience lies.

With my recent marriage, my desire to start a family and own a house and my frustration that, ten years after graduating from high school I haven't found a career suitable to my personality, I decided to go back to school.

I met with a counselor and discovered that I'm only 12 credits shy of a general studies A.S., which I'm finishing this semester (first class starts Tuesday) then I plan to transfer to GMU... with no real major in mind. I've spent a lot of time recently kicking myself, since my grade transcripts are almost solid A's...and F's from all the classes I walked out of (ever heard of withdrawing from a class? oops) making my GPA a miserable 2.55.

My fear is that, I still have so many potential interests that I'm afraid I won't follow through and settle on a major and get my B.S. My other fear is that, my motivation to do right by my future family will lead me to get saddled in a career I despise where the monotony while sap the life out of me and turn me into a withered husk of a man like my father.

*GRIN*

I'm turning to you because I'm hoping some of you folk have found meaningful, successful, happy careers... that you might share some of your insight or wisdom or advice. Like most of you, I read people very well, I have the crazy charisma magnetic personality thing, I love helping people with their problems, I'm very good at explaining things to people in their own language, I notice the things that other people don't see, I can't stand routine or monotony...

I go stir crazy in a job that requires me to go back to the same building day after day--the main joy of the service jobs I've held has been spending half of the day driving in a van psychoanalyzing my various coworkers and helping or supporting them when they have tough things going on in their lives. Most recently, I've also enjoyed working on pool systems, learning how to install heaters and fix motors... trouble shooting; playing detective when we don't know what's causing the problem. But the money's not great and there's not much room for advancement.

I love generating ideas, but not sure how I'd find a path to turn that into a career. I'm good at coming up with advertising concepts, slogans, commercial ideas, billboard ideas. I write, play and do recording/engineering (rock music, mostly) but am happy with it as a hobby.
I love brainstorming with people and being a part of a team working towards a goal, but I'm much better in the concept end of things than in the follow through.

My wife is an amazing artist/designer/photographer/model/musician/etc and I've given her quite a few concepts for paintings.
I envy her focus--she's known since she could walk that she's an artist and has pursued that single-mindedly and turned it into a successful career. (I think she's an ISFP).

I'm overwhelmed with the possibilities, stressed that going back to school might mean delaying our financial ability to buy a house and raise a family, worried that I won't be any happier in a career after school than I was before.

I just want to do something that offers variety, challenge, creativity, changes of scenery and is meaningful.

Um,

help?

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Settling down later in life?

Amanda710 — Tue, 15 Jan 2008 23:18:05 GMT

What do you guys make of the whole recommendation that ENFPs settle down later in life (romantically)? I'm 26 female, and I'm beginning to see why that may be true. I'm just able to connect with so many different types of people, some of whom I end up being very compatible with, others not so much, and so I think it's harder for me to figure out who would ultimately be the best partner for me (more so than other types, possibly?) Is that why that recommendation is all about? I just had a date with a guy who I was able to talk to for about 6 hours, and didn't want the date to end even then, but I'm not sure if he still had that *it* factor of being my soulmate. I guess that's where this is all coming from...

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Psychology counselor and Nutritionist (mind body) at Bastyr Univeristy in WA.

Christine — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 05:46:48 GMT

What do you guys think about this graduate program ...

"Master of Science in Nutrition and Clinical Health Psychology (MSNCHP)

A 3-year graduate program leading to credentials to practice as a nutritionist and licensure as a mental health counselor. This provides interdisciplinary educati
on in nutrition, dietetics, and clinical health psychology for students who wish a fully integrated mind-body approach to human health. "

It sounds like a dream to me... check out the school, it sounds so ENFP!

Im thinking about it, about to graduate with a BA psych soon, but I believe in nutrition and health so much also!!!

http://www.bastyr.edu/default.asp
http://www.bastyr.edu/education/nutrition/degree/training.asp

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ENFP and Industrial Engieering..what do you think?

Elaf — Sun, 23 Dec 2007 08:31:53 GMT

Hey ENFPs...as I'm jumping from one major to another...I came across industrial engieering. is anyone in that field? do you think it's a good match for ENFPs? Here was I'm concidering it in the first place:

It speaks more to my personality than any other , as it's the most people/idea/possibilities-orinted engineering...with great everyday varity.all in all quite typical for us ENFPs
2)combines, and actually have concentration areas, in marketing, human recourse,and lot's of management, all of which are some of our favorite/most appropriate careers and intrests. (it's like 40% engieering 60% management or so).
3)numerous options for graduate schools from engieering diciplines to management.
4) require well-rounded people with great communication and socail skills..perfesct for ENFPs
5)most of them are extroverted people as opposed to the traditional engieers who are introverted.
so, any thought about this?

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question from INFJ re: closure

Rachel — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 22:11:59 GMT

Ok, I've been trying to figure out the "P" people in my life, and I have read that it entails wanting to keep your options open, not being as dead-set on closure as us J's. Since I just got my heart broken by a P who was SO confusing and would not allow me closure at all (ouch), I've been wondering why the push to keep options open...can anybody explain this? Is it like a feeling that making a decision would leave too many other cool possibilities out there? I think that I'm attracted to P people both in friendships and relationships for this very open-mindedness, but it also usually ends up hurting me, so I'd like to understand better. Thanks :-)

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Any Interpreters here?

Brendan — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 08:42:54 GMT

I'm considering going after a degree in ASL interpreting.

I was wondering if any of you are interpreters or gave it a shot and have advice or experience to share.

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Re-Engineering the ENFP for Corporate Survival!

Ozy — Fri, 23 Mar 2007 03:56:51 GMT

Anyone know any "GOOD" Personality Plastic Surgeons?!?!

I've been saddled with this ENFP thing for about 3 decades and it's getting a bit tired....aka...boring/frustrating. As I "look out" and around (when do I never *STOP* doing that?)...Can't it be just nice and cool to look in for prolonged periods longer than say 2 seconds? Ok, I'm off topic already *gah* and I just started typing.

WARNING: THESE FOLLOWING CONCLUSIONS ARE FROM AN ENFP...DO NOT EXPECT RIGOROUS ANALYSIS!

My thesis: I'm worried that ENFP types and very "big dreamers" are often out-competed for positions of influence and success in the corporate wolrd by other personality types. Given that globalization is driving us to increased corporate organizational growth and interaction, I feel that ENFPs (much less rewarded than other types) may find themselves, as a personality group, left out of leadership roles in the decision making process of the firm. As certain I and T type temperaments are rewarded for positions of leadership, so too organizations become more I and T hiring, thus leaving the E and P people out in the cold or in as subordinate position in either the HR or Customer Service Departments.

Now, I have nothing against Customer Service, HR, and Corporate Training. I myself have worked in both HR and Customer Support for years.

Heck! I lie....

I have worked in all these positions and I despise them (as they are traditionally defined) because "touchy-feely" is not a corporate imperative. It's something firms implement so that these operational functions fulfill the role of ensuring that human interaction is effective and that people (employees and clients) in a firm don't break any laws and can act civilly to each other. These positions are not revenue units and stakeholders in driving corporate profits or business strategy. They're mainly cost functions and are still tied to the constraint that the units of production called humans, need to be properly "handled". We the ENFPs are the best handlers out there. Even in purely service businesses (consulting, law, investments) that rely on continuous personal interaction, ENFPs are, not to my knowledge, in positions of leadership to craft service strategy beyond the pre-defined role of the operational "care giver" aka "human handler". And I won't even touch Sales here!! We're great farmers (aka Client Support), but tragic hunters (aka Closers and slick Ferrari Drivers) due to both our strong sense of ethics and our need to please others. As such, Client Support roles will always be subordinate to Sales and Business Development roles.

So, the ENFP is faced with a problem. In order to survive in the corporate world and reach the executive suite, she has to adapt to the demands that an I and T and J work environment have placed on her. Sure, she can smell the stifling stench of the boring and self-involved spreadsheet drones that pass her desk everyday sipping the same stale coffee and eating the same dry-buttered bagle. She's mad as hell! She wants out! She's ready to just switch off her computer and *LEAVE* that very minute. She has no need for 2 weeks notice because she's highly adaptable and can get literally *ANY* job she puts her mind to within a week or less. Enough of this waste of precious life-essence!! However...it would be the 5th time she's left a company in 10 years and her career will continue to sparkle like shards of broken and cut opportunities over the years. She needs new options, dammit! She wants to be CEO and lead the people (and even some of the drones) forward! She has a vision!

So, How does she adapt?

I say, she should find a way to "Re-engineer" F into T and P into J.

Is this realistically possible? Can this be done effectively and in such a way (game etc) that the ENFP understands that what she is, at best, role playing, and managing human perceptions around her? Or, must this only be done with some chemical intervention such as ADDHD medicines etc? Should she get a I/T/J type partner with whom to team up to move up to the top? If so, won't the other type get picked over her when it comes to the corner office? After all, we can't have a "bubbly" female CEO of a Fortune 1000 company, shaking everyone's hands, can we?

Maybe I'm just paranoid and prone to flights of fancy, but I worry that ENFPs influence in world will wane as others wax and, if anything, we shouldn't just it "be so" because that's our type.

I'm no longer interested in "living my type"! My type is afflicted some critical liabilities and they're costing me my big career dreams! How can I change before it's too late?

I'm open to suggestions or ideas or any advice that this wonderful group of ENFPs can share.

Cheers,
Apologies for bad grammar and erroneous spelling!
Ozymandus...

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Let's talk about jobs

Tue, 09 Aug 2005 14:20:26 GMT

I am currently suffering a life of quiet desperation when it comes to work. I am looking for a career change and was wondering if anyone out here had a job they just love. I am thinking that the my personality type will play a significant role in what work I find enjoyable.

So what kind of jobs do you have?

I work as an engineer in a lab by myself. I think you might be able to understand why I do not like it much. Not a good job for us.

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tattoos

Raezen — Wed, 29 Nov 2006 16:31:19 GMT

Hi fellow ENFPers
Just wondering how many of you have tattoos and how you feel about the tattoos you have? Any regrets?

I've been wanting one for over 10 years now, but haven't made the move yet to get one because I change my mind so much about what it is that I want . . . my newest idea is to get ENFP tattooed on the inside of my wrist or maybe the back of my neck. At least I know I'll be an ENFP forever . . .

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How manipulative are you?

AJ — Thu, 13 Sep 2007 06:06:55 GMT

Well, I recently just noticed that I can be very manipulative without even trying, I just listen to the person talking for a bit, do my little profile scan on them, then I switch to whatever gear they may be on (like the other post stated). After I sink with them for a while, I have this uncanny ability to make people use their own logic with me steering them just a bit to the point I want to make. I eventually make them think they came up with the conclusion all on their own even though was mine in the beginning.

I don't know if this is bad, as I do it without ever realizing it. My best friend, an ISFJ, pointed it out to me. He came up to me and said to me in a matter of fact way, "I am on to you." I had no clue what he was talking about and he realized I was being honest so he clued me in on my manipulative matter. He says it is ok , just because I never convince people of bad things, or things that may be against their morals.

Well let me know if you ever experienced this before, take care.

~AJ

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Any ENFPs have trouble with people smothering you/wanting you to be their best friend?

tooshae — Wed, 16 Jan 2008 18:09:51 GMT

Now before I even go on, let me just say that I'm being very honest and blunt here...something I wouldn't do IRL. I DON'T think I'm all that and that the world worships me. I just want some real answers from people I think will understand (fellow ENFPs).

Here's my problem.................

I seem to attract people that want SO much from me. Serioulsy, they want to plan out daily meetings and phone conversations, and this just makes me want to BOLT. This happens to me OVER AND OVER, so I think it must be me.

Whenever I meet new people (which I do love doing), I keep it very real. I am a sincere, somewhat transparant person, and hate dishonesty and pretense. A relationship forms immediately, which again I don't mind---I enjoy. BUT the same thing inevitably keeps happening......these people start **expecting** me to go on daily walks, have long phone conversations, meet on a regular friday night basis, ect. Basically, they seem to think I'm their new best friend.

I hate even saying it like this, because I sound so mean and full of myself. This is just honestly what keeps happening to me OVER and OVER.

I had to basically start avoiding my neighbor across the street because of this. I hate it because I know that I probably hurt her feelings, but she wouldn't take a hint, so I had to avoid her and her calls for a good month.

So much in my life is set.....I got married as a teen and had 4 kids early. Don't get me wrong....I LOVE my family and have given my life for them. But I can't have one more obligation. I feel as if in so many ways my life has been "planned" for me, so I don't want other people planning anything else for me! Does this make sense?

Ok, your turn. Does anyone else have this problem or do I just need therapy?! If you do have this problem, how do you deal with it? I know avoidance isn't good and probably is even mean, but telling someone "I like you alot but only want to see you occasionally, on my terms" is alot meaner!

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Creative from the UK...

Fri, 11 Jan 2008 10:12:05 GMT

Nice to meet you all. I realise I look mad in my profile pic but I think it looks funny.

I need some guidance...

Since a couple of weeks before Christmas last year (2007), I've been trying to decide on a career path to take. Scanning the web looking for inspiration, I stumbled on the personality test and discovered that I'm a true ENFP. What a relief you lot are here, I'm not crazy after all.

I'm 26, I work in retail, the pay sucks, my manager sucks, but I love dealing with people. I am desperate to move on from the job but cannot just walk out due to responsibilities.

I've always had an uncanny knack to talk people round from feeling a certain way and make them feel another way.

With this in mind, surely training to be a psychologist or counsellor should be the way to go. The problem is, thinking about being a counsellor depresses me, so that's off the list and the idea of being a psychologist bores me.

At heart, I feel I'd like to write.

So many more ideas.

I'm stuck,

Please could someone help guide me?

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what is your galactic signature?

Sun, 05 Aug 2007 18:15:19 GMT

http://www.astrodreamadvisor.com/free_mayan_readings.html#

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The ENFP Hunt!

Kolby — Wed, 18 Apr 2007 02:54:44 GMT

Hey guys!
You know what I thought would be cool, and I was just thinkin. What if it were to be possible to do an ENFP hunt? I mean do a North American road trip to visit each other from this tribe. I wouldn't mind gettin together with all yall. Not everyone from this trip, thats like 300'n somthing lol. Maybe all those who feel like participating. We could plan something at each visit. lol, ok I KNOW that sounds crazy, but everytime I write in response to certain posts, I can actually imagine hangin out with the people I write back to. Like ZenDee, Katrina, Amanda, Keren, and that big teddy bear! Awwww you guys are so amazing! Anyone like to play Xbox? Ohhhhh I would love to kick butt in a tourney of hockey! How about paint ball???? who's up for that? They don't call me K-Dawg for nothin ;). Or a Nut eating contest. I love to pound back those nuts! Hows about a kareokee contest? JUSTIN eat ur heart out! Anyone for some disco inferno? Ya, that's right! we could have a 70's dress up theme disco night. Maybe a night at the round table........discuss some of life's matters? lol now you think i'm nuts. Well honestly when I write in response, I love to crank some music and imagine hangin with fellow ENFPers. Oh how colorful the world is with us! Love you guys! so watcha think? we good to go? lets start it up and raze the roof on the tribe!
Kolby :)

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"Bits of Advice" Project for ENFPs

Gerry — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 23:20:17 GMT

I'm going to start posting "bits of advice" on being an ENFP that I've culled from extensive research across the internet, psychology, social dynamics, other people's life experiences and my own experiences.

I HIGHLY encourage and hope you all get in on the act.

Here is the first round, I'll be posting more as I add on to my personal list. If you don't understand my weird mix of counter-culture/pop-psychology/scientific/poetic lingo then please say so and I will try to clarify the concept for you.

Enjoy!>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

In situations of conflict, adversity or suffering, directly move to rectify them rather than waiting for people to fix them based on subtle signals of disdain you may be sending off.

Don't assume that you have been used, taken for granted, exploited, etc., etc. at every instance of social turmoil in a relationship or interaction with another person. Realize that others don't have the particular interpersonal sensitivity and desire to maintain good and positive relations as you do. The best thing is to either communicate, confront or move away from that person depending on your circumstances with them.

Seek congruency in your personality and expressions of yourself. Maintain congruency in your personality and expressions of yourself. Move from this congruent center. Adjust this congruent center wholly and with your whole being when necessary.

Strict goal orientation and implementation may not be the best option, so rather for your temperment it might be best to list goals based on highest to lowest priority, break those goals down into smaller steps working from the end to the beginning and implement each step with an emphasis on enjoying the process itself as its own reward rather than the end result.

Do yourself a favor and strive for the middleground in all things. In decision-making, ENFPs seem to strive for the absolute end-all answer that aligns with their personal core values. Unfortunately, when you try to align EVERYTHING with your personal core values, you end up having to reassess and recreate your values constantly, leaving yourself with little peace of mind. So find the best options between fit and flow, quality and quantity, this and that, etc.

Don't let your desire to please others become the means by which others exploit and control you. Recognize situations where other people aren't reciprocating your generous efforts to them and either alter the situation for the better or leave.

Even though you will have the strong desire to immediately act from your perceptions of the reality of a situation, realize that your perceptions are based upon subjective emotions. Before taking action [especially in big decisions], take time out after your emotional state to think about the situation, the possibilities and the consequences logically and objectively. Then carefully map out a plan of action and dedicate yourself to following it to the end but adapting if need be.

For the good of all, in your verbal, written and physical expressions try to pare them down to the bare essentials: Basically the simple and the succinct. Yes, there is a lot you want to convey in the moment, but realize that since you're trying to convey the message from your emotions rather than your logic what ends up coming out will probably be misconstrued or misunderstood by other parties who will receive the message through their emotions. [Yes, I realize that I'm violating my own advice in these posts. :D]

Avoid drugs, alcohol and physical mindless self indulgence [usually sexual] at all costs. As an ENFP, your natural tendency is to avoid suffering and jump headlong into pleasurable experiences. But your desire to explore all facets of pleasurable experiences, over and over and over again without regard to the longterm logical consequences will catch you. In these matters, the mottos "Moderation in all things", "Slow and steady" and "Less is more" are best.

Get more Omega 3 Fatty Acids in your diet [can be found in tuna, almonds, flax seed, olive oil, etc.] The mental and physical balancing benefits are amazing!

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Your dream.

Denyse — Fri, 09 Nov 2007 10:02:46 GMT

Now that I posted something, I feel like posting even more! :P

Okay. Dig down, to those dreams you've always had. What is something that after you got it or did it, you could honestly say you can die happy? What is your dream, and how are you taking steps to achieve it? Hopefully you are, I mean.

Mine are simple. I want to be known for exactly who I am in a community. I want life-long friends. I want to create works of art that I feel express who I am. Especially a play. I want to be part of the art community, acting in plays, starting up improv theatre or improv singing, singing in a band. I want to meet someone I love who will experience everything with me. I want to explore the world for every little nuance of beauty it has. I want to be in some group of people who are effecting positive change in the world. And I want to have happy and healthy children.

None of those are happening right now, so I feel a little empty. But I'll be going to university soon and starting those groups. If I can meet some people who will be my life-long friends, that would be a great start.

I love knowing what is at the core of a person, and I wonder if there will be a sort of pattern here due to our ENFP-ness. So, spill it. :P

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distraction

Astrid — Fri, 01 Jul 2005 05:25:53 GMT

Hi all, not so new to this tribe but this is my first post...

If being easily distracted is a typical ENFP trait, then I must be a text book case! I find it extremely be consistent, basically functioning in cycles of energy and lethargy. Does anyone else experience this? If so how do you keep your yourself in check?

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Chronic Creativity / Visionary Website

PomoArtist — Sat, 22 Dec 2007 18:21:20 GMT

Founded for the purpose of providing a "Connection" point for those creativ-ites who live lives of creativity and artistry. Realizing that sometimes, the "Source" of the creativity and artistry might be organic brain "disorder"

We would appreciate you checking out the site, and possibly becoming a participant in the community.

http://www.creativeconnectionarts.com

~ Pat

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Help With Career Choice Please!

John — Wed, 19 Dec 2007 05:00:04 GMT

New Here,

I know there's some other career topics which I read, but I had to post my own...

I'm kind of going through a crisis right now, I'm 20 years old, junior in college at the university of florida, doing civil engineering but I really think that I want to change my major to something else because I realized that I've always been into the WHY and not the HOW, which is basically what engineering is. After taking the Myers-Briggs test and reading about my personality (which was mind-numbingly accurate) I realize I think I need to do something else, but not sure what...

I have a ton of interests, but not sure what to study. I love history, politics, religion, philosophy, basically anything. What subjects did everyone here study in college, and did it ultimately make you happy in the long run for your career?

I'm on winter break right now, and would like to have my mind made up by the time i go back to school..

Help!

John

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What do you do for a job now?

Christine — Sun, 12 Aug 2007 15:08:43 GMT

What is your job now?
Is it full time or part time, and do you like it?

...I am a nursing assistant, self employed and I work in home health care. I work full time and go to school, and I like it.

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correlations between Enneagram and MB

fingersmith — Mon, 17 Dec 2007 16:40:27 GMT

I was wondering if anyone has ever taken then enneagram (numbers 1-9) and if so what was your archetype? I'm a two (helper) and I think that both are very accurate to my personality and drives. What about you?

here is a site

www.enneagraminstitute.com

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!POP!

Sun, 21 Oct 2007 15:16:02 GMT

is bein popular supposed to be this hard? sigh.

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Hard to find cool people!

Brandon — Tue, 16 Oct 2007 17:09:57 GMT

So I've been here since last June (virginia beach)...working some until I go back to school or transfer somewhere here but I have a major gripe: It is HARD to meet really cool people compared to the friends I had/have at college!

I had many circles of friends in college and I was also fortunate enough to have a few friends from high school to go to college with me. It was easy to find people that were down to go out, go to the gym with, study, or just have fun playing games, etc but now it's harder. All my close friends are either back at school, in DC, or halfway cross the country (a good friend of mine of 5+ years is in friggin AZ ).

I also find it harder to meet women since I don't have many social networks here. I do talk to some women randomly, but sometimes I get a little self conscious because of society (e.g. not meeting stranger).

Don't get me wrong...I am not a shy person. Typical ENFP, but I hate encountering shallow ass people I have to have some form of connection with that person besides of the traditional rapport. I've met some flaky and shady people...hung out with them but didn't vibe well with.

I've also hung out with a few people that REALLY liked me but I wasn't quite intestested in hanging out with them that much. Seriously...they'd buy me drinks when we were out, talk my ear off, do stuff for me. I've even met this one guy at the gym like that...talk my ear off and have a one ended conversation. That's annoying.

I am not interested in hanging out with too many people at work. Age difference is one thing and I also encounter the types of people I dislike that are either overbearingly annoying, the fake ones, or the ones I'd just rather see at work.

The Hampton Roads are isn't the most populus area but it has a decent amount of people, but I do wish I lived in a city...e.g. DC...in order to meet different people and have more things to do. Advice?

Cliffnotes
-It's hard to find cool people to hang out with.
-Hard to meet women.
-Most my friends don't live here: either at school or another part of the country.
-Met some shallow people.
-Met annoying people.
-I know SOME cool people here but want to meet more.
-Still pissed and want to find some more cool people.

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support network vs. relocation and adventure?

Amanda710 — Sun, 25 Nov 2007 22:51:34 GMT

Hey Guys,

I've run into a bit of a personality conflict with my ENFPness. On the one hand, us ENFPs crave adventure, right? But on the other hand, our relationships tend to take central importance in our lives. For me, I know, my friends are the thing that make me happiest in my life right now. So I'm torn now between the idea of relocating to a new city for a graduate program that I'm only slightly excited about (I think this comes from our ENFP career ambivalence), or going to a similar program in the city I'm in now, where I could maintain the great friendships I've made in the past few years. It seems that most people my age (in their 20s) move around quite a bit, but to be honest, the prospect of giving up my support network scares me. Has anyone else confronted this in their own lives? How do you resolve it? I can't tell if it's just my fear of the unknown that's talking and preventing me from moving, or if it's just that I value my relationships so much that they're of central importance in where I choose to live. I don't want fear to hold me back in life, but I also don't want to be horribly depressed and miserable in a new city all by my lonesome. What do you guys think?

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Would any of these activities amuse you?

Denyse — Tue, 13 Nov 2007 03:31:46 GMT

I made a list of activities I absolutely love. When I do these with someone I really enjoy being with, there's something quite amazing about these activities that makes me feel really close to them, and my whole being is immersed into the moment. I guess because I feel like they're seeing ME, the real me, and that's what I most want.

And because I suspect that I am a really strange person, I've posted this here to see if this hypothesis is correct. "Hey, Denyse, what's wrong with going to a movie or a concert or something?" I'd only enjoy it, really, if it were combined with one of these activities somehow. "Weirdo..." Yeah, I'm starting to figure that out. So, a concert wouldn't be so great unless I were dancing ridiculously, for instance.

And if none of this applies to you, POST YOUR OWN ACTIVITIES! It's a free-for-all. :P

Improvised singing
Yoga
Eating cereal at 3 AM
Sitting by a dim light at night
Sitting by a lake
Board games
Everyone singing a song heartily
Reading a book out loud
Watching musicals or old movies
Driving at night
1000 Blank White Cards (http://www.geocities.com/nconner23/bwcards.html)
Looking from overhead at city lights
Being the only one(s) awake
Jamming, open jams
Dancing ridiculously
Communal psychedelics
Making a game out of mundane activities
Baking
Writing stories together
Bonfires and camping
Revelling in the subtleties that no one else notices
Travelling
Going on rides at amusement parks
Water slides
Thrift store shopping
Talking about revolution
Spontaneous skit-making
Making videos
Connecting with strangers

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Other 'E' Types.

Brandon — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 07:04:49 GMT

How do you respond towards them. I know ENFPs have a bit of I in them where they have to think things out through introspection, but I mean when we interact with others who are outgoing like us.

To be honest some really annoy me and their personality clouds my extrovertness at times. I don't know what it is. At other times if we are two outgoing buddies, as long as one isn't overbearing, then we are fine. Any comments?

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Laugh Quota

asidemichelle — Tue, 16 Oct 2007 14:28:43 GMT

I'm starting to believe that I really do have a laugh quota. Any of you notice this with yourselves? If I have an off day, either from boredom or stress, and when the oddest, most obscure little thing occurs that borders the definition of funny, I end up laughing so hard that I make myself cry. It's as if my body was hungry for laughter to the point where it just surrenders in amusement.

On that note, have any of you had exceptionally happy childhoods? As an ENFP, I've always been exploring new ideas, creative projects, interactions and comparisons between people.. as a result it led to an exceptionally happy childhood. I suppose when there's little responsibility, we have plenty of time to entertain ourselves with thoughts and dreams without doubts or realities.

(I love that my topic changed mid-way... ENFP thoughts at its finest)

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Can we as ENFPs survive in a relationship with an ISTJ?

Christine — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 06:51:17 GMT

Can it acutally work? An ENFP mated to an ISTJ?

I just had a recent break up with an ISTJ, but I still love him.

Does anyone have any thought on this, or know of this scinerio working? I keep debating the issue in my head.

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How does an ENFP girl attract an INTJ she likes????

dami — Mon, 01 Oct 2007 22:05:41 GMT

hi, my name is dami and I need any help that I can get. I am an ENFP really like this INTJ guy and would just love to find a way to attract him. I think he likes me but am not sure. HELP!!!!

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HELP, my dad drives me nuts! ESFP's are crazy.

AJ — Thu, 11 Oct 2007 10:51:58 GMT

My father is a text-book ESFP. He is fun, all my friends like him, heck everyone I know likes him, but I never felt that he was a father figure to me. My friends come over to hang out with my dad, which I am ok with, but I feel so embarrassed for him becuase of the work he is involved in. He works at INTEL with some of the biggest engineers in the world and they are serious ridiculous, TJ's. When I go with him to work, I see how everyone sees him as a child even though he is their manager. He treats them with love and they reciprocate back with assholeness. I just wish he would grow up and start being the 45 year old he should be. Is this wrong? Should I accept him for who he is? Are ESFP's just crazy, or are they just like us and want to be free?

Another side note, my mother is an INFJ, I love this woman with all my heart more than anyone in the world. She is so strong and has such high expectations for all of her children and is the reason I am where I am. I guess I can't complain about my parents as they are the best tag team I have ever seen. My mother keeps everyone in check and my father keeps everything fun...

Do ENFP's have a natural conflict with ESFP's?

Let's here what you have about ESFP's

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decision making with and intp

abbadabba — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 22:16:13 GMT

has anyone had any experience waiting on an intp to make a decision? decisions are feeling based with me..i'm not sure how to patients with this whole way OVER-thinking thing

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Sleeping at odd hours..

Andrew — Sat, 08 Sep 2007 09:24:40 GMT

Maybe this is a leap, but I've noticed a correlation between people who are ENFP and people with nocturnal sleeping schedules.

They say to find out what your natural sleeping schedule is, is to take a week off work, and find out when you natually sleep. For me, my body always wants to shift me to sleeping from 5am - 1pm, keeping me awake at all hours of the night. This may just be a connection with my age group (I'm 25) but I thought it would be worth throwing it out there as it's 2:30am right now. I have a couple friends who are ENFPs and they claim the same thing about stuggling to wake up on time in the morning, etc.

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favorite punctuation...

enfp_ken — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 16:58:26 GMT

mine... the ellipsis
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ellipsis

...anyone else? :)

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Are ENFPs generally "good looking"? (...or does it just seem that way once you get to know us)

enfp_ken — Wed, 20 Jun 2007 19:59:55 GMT

So,
I'm wondering... are ENFP's good looking in general? Do most of us fall on the hotter side of the attractiveness scale than other types? I know we're all terrible flirts (or at least we're perceived that way by the other types) but is our magnatism a result of good genes (luck) and our personality a product of living with that luck? or is it the other way around? or are we just naturally overly concerned with what others think and therefore take more time "putting our selves together" in the morning -( without the makup and clothes we're average???)

Or is this question total bulls_t

Thoughts? or should i say "What are your feelings on the subject?" ;)

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Technical Minded ENFPs

Brandon — Mon, 08 Oct 2007 19:42:17 GMT

Anyone else on here like me? Maybe because I'm borderline ENFP/TP but I act mostly like an ENFP.

My passions when I was younger was predominately in the sciences, and later on into computers and engineering. With that said my profession is that of a Sales Engineer for an IT company. It satisfies my need to learn the intricacies of a program or an operating system such as Unix and also interact with people through training sessions, consulting, or sales support.

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